Monday, May 12, 2014

Identical. No, fraternal. No identical...No...wait...

We found out we were having twins when I was sick as a dog and about to be admitted to the hospital at 9 weeks pregnant. At the time, we knew they had separate placentas (diachorionic) and separate amniotic sacs (diamniotic) so it was assumed that they were most likely fraternal. But when we later found out they were both girls, we discovered that identical still wasn't totally ruled out. Apparently a relatively small portion of di/di twins are actual monozygotic (identical).

When they were born, Alice was head first and had the typical head shape of a babe that had just been squeezed through the birth canal head first. Lilah, on the other hand, was breech and her head shape was completely different. It led to them looking totally different from one another, thus seemingly confirming the fraternal guess. By about two-months-old, I started to question it. It was like over night the girls started morphing into the same face. I distinctly remember having a conversation with my friend Maura about how different they looked one week and then the very next being like, "Uh...do you see what I see?" It was about that time that I made us buy matching (but different colored) amber necklaces for quick reference. ;)
Lilah left, Alice right. Day 1 of life. :)
Five days old. Alice left, Lilah right. See the head shape difference?
hmmm...
I took these pictures the exact same day I was chatting with my friend about how different they looked.
And then this happened the next week (just shy of 2 months)...This SERIOUSLY got me thinking... Lilah left (I mostly know this now as I almost always put her in the yellow and Alice in the pink jammies).

Throughout the better portion of the next 10 months, I waffled. Identical. Totally identical. Same eye color, which is blue with a little ring of golden brown around the pupil - how random considering Anthony's dark, dark dominate genes, right? Same widow's peak hair line despite the fact that neither A or I have one. Their measurements at well visits were always very similar and actually EXACTLY the same (head, weight and length) at their 1 year visit. Same tooth alignment. Same this. Same that. You get it. But...then I would look at them and say to myself, "No, no, no. Totally different. Totally fraternal". Lilah's eyes are a little farther a part and a little deeper set in her face. Alice's face is a little longer and her head more oval while Lilah's is a little squarer. Rather different personalities. Totally different (yet equally sweet) voices. Different this. Different that. Identical. No, fraternal. No identical.

The day we moved to Oregon - July 7th, 2013 - just shy of 3 months...thinking even more...haha. Alice left, Lilah right. You can see the slight difference in eyes.
Just over 4 months. Alice left, Lilah right.

This probably should have been the convincer, but I still waffled. Ha. Alice left, Lilah right. Just shy of 6 months.
Just about 7 months. I actually think they look quite different here. Lilah left, Alice right. See? Confusing, right!?
8 months and change. Lilah left, Alice right...again, pretty different, no?
9 months. Lilah left, Alice right.
10 months and a few days. Subtle, but I can see the eye difference. I've always thought they looked more alike with hats on though. Lilah left, Alice right.
First bday. I can really see the differences here.

I CANNOT BELIEVE that I have analyzed this over and over again for as long as I have. Haha. It is really silly when you think about it. Why should it matter? Either way, I love them the same amazingly huge amount. But for some reason, I needed to know. When I really search through my heart, here is why. There is apparently no scientific explanation for why identical twins happen. Fraternal twins, I could totally chalk up to the fact that I was still nursing my (then) 2.5-year-old and my cycle was wacky and just released multiple eggs. But identical...no random cycle, just the Universe's awesome power. Identical? That just had to be my Sofia. So...I kept going back to it and convincing myself that they were ID. Call me crazy, if you'd like...but in my heart, I kinda hoped they were ID.

Finally, I convinced Anthony that we should order the test. It was only $100, but there are a lot of things in our world right now that are more important to spend a hundred dollars on, you know? So, it was my Mother's Day gift. ;) We ordered the test online through a company called Proactive Genetics that had been recommended to me from some other mommas of multiples. They sent us the kit, we did the cheek swabbing, sent it back in and they tested it. Today we got those results...

Well, there you have it!
And this was taken mere moments after reading the results email. Very appropriately, looking exactly alike. ;) Alice left, Lilah right.
Congratulations, all of FB and pretty much every other friend we have, you were right on! :) And for the record, it was a very well spent $100 in my opinion. And yes, I'm super excited. :)

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Christmas in April

Right after Christmas our house was filled with germs, injury and sleepless babes. It has taken a while, but we seemingly have sorted much of that mess out. Soooo...now I can post an extremely delayed Christmas blog and a couple belated bday posts too (hopefully soon to come). Honestly, so much time has passed and sleep is still quite broken that I'm not sure that I remember much, but I know some day I'll want to look back and see my little Christmas babies, so here goes! :)

The season started out with getting the tree. For the past 4 years, we have gone to pick out a tree on December 7th, the anniversary of Sofia's birth - a tradition we are going to change next year as the current tradition is way too hectic on a day that I just want to reflect and honor her. But this year, we went. It was bone chilling cold. Like 15 degrees plus windchill. Way. Too. Cold. for such recent Californians and way too cold for little people. Lesson learned: if it is below freezing, postpone tree getting. We went to Bauman Farms, saw Santa (though we have kept the Santa talk pretty low key, Nolan is pretty obsessed), drank hot chocolate, rode a hay ride out to the u-cut (they really cut for you, but you get to pick which one...and could cut it yourself, if you really wanted to) field, picked out our tree, attempted to roast s'mores while we waited for it to be all netted and loaded up on the car, nearly broke our teeth on frozen chocolate, made an unfortunate decision to go to the petting zoo that required Nolan to remove his mittens...and then wash his hands (doh...only added to the extreme cold), lost one super cute Aiden and Anais blanket and got a pretty sweet tree - our biggest to date! :)

Then of course came the decorating. We decided it a good plan to put the ugly, yet very useful baby gate around the tree again this year. It was a very wise choice. All the favorite ornaments were put up, popcorn strung and even a few special family ornaments and some from my childhood were added this year as well. Nolan was really into decorating this year, which was quite fun. We kept up the tradition of Nolan and I making an ornament for Sofia and we made gingerbread ornaments this year too.

On Christmas Eve, the babes get to open one present - their Christmas jammies. Some day when I'm old and gray and they are all grown up, I'm going to make them quilts from all those years of jammies...or so I think I am. ;) I was a little worried that Nolan's were going to go unworn as he pretty much refuses to wear pajamas and definitely not pajama pants, but he surprised me, put them on and loved them. All three still wear them at least once a week, in fact all three wore theirs today. We read some Christmas stories as a family and off to bed my little elves went.

Bug woke up with a fever Christmas day, so we kept it pretty quiet. Presents were a big hit. The girls mostly just wanted to eat the paper/ribbon/tags. Nolan was very helpful in getting the girls' presents open. Ha. We had a small family dinner of delicious prime rib, Oregon Dungeness crab, au graten potatoes that never really cooked through (doh), green beans, Nicaraguan avocado salad and I don't remember what else. It was tasty.

That pretty much sums it up. What came after was nothing short of a plague of illness that swept through the house. Luckily we all got over it and are seemingly healthy now. :)

Merry Christmas. ;P

Nolan visits with Santa. Santa asked Nolan what he wanted for Christmas. Nolan's reply: "a Christmas tree". :)
Me and Alice all bundled up for the sub-freezing temps to go get our tree!
Anthony and Lilah.
Turns out...not nearly bundled enough. :/
Getting so big.
Hayride out to the trees!
Did I mention it was cold?
Tree huntin'.
Checking out the ice.
Yup. That's the one.
Grandma and Nolan waiting for the guy to come and chainsaw it down for us. We chose not to saw it by hand. Ha.
Kissies while we waited for the hayride to pick us back up.
Excited about the s'mores.
Not so excited about the s'mores. :(
Goats!

I think it was so cold that the girls had to conserve energy by sleeping. Lilah.
Alice.
Lilah and Daddy.
Hanging out in the car with the heat blasting, trying to regain feeling in all our appendages.
Alice.
That face.
Nolan whipping up a batch of gingerbread people/shapes for us to make into ornaments (except half or more of the cookies were eaten before we painted them...ha).
Me and the sissies cooking with Bug.
Cracking the eggs.
Molasses face. He REALLY loved the molasses.
Rolling out the dough. Note the wardrobe change. This project was completed in multiple parts.
Cutting the shapes.
The painting begins...

Yup...I was trying to multitask and make dinner as he painted.
Nothing to do with ornaments, but a cool picture of Nolan practicing his writing. :)
Waiting for the tree to make its way into the house to decorate.
We ended up with a tree that looked very much like our son.
Me and sissies (Lilah left) getting ready to decorate.
Alice checking out the tree. Good thing we put that gate up!
Nolan LOVED decorating this year!
A little help from mom to get to the next tier.
My babes.
Nolan hanging up an ornament that we made in 2012.
Of course Daddy got to hang some too (and I only moved a few of them around afterward...hehe).
Cheeeeese!

Sissies checking out the tree. Again...good thing we put up the gate! Ha!
"Whatchu talkin' 'bout, momma?!" Ha. Lilah left.
Kissie-face Alice.
Lilah likes to bake while doing acrobatics.
Nolan's first Jesus craft. ;)

Pretty cute, eh?
Christmas Eve jammie opening.
In all honesty, I generally try to down play all things Santa, but these were the cutest jammies we could find in his size...luckily, he LOVED them (and wore them today).
My littlest elves.
Best shot of the season! Lilah left.
Rudolph and other Christmas bedtime stories. Lilah in Daddy's lap.
Christmas Day! Lilah and the tags...

Alice and the tags...
Sissy...don't eat the paper!
Alice.
Lilah. Note: eating tag, not toy. Haha.
Lilah.
Alice also rather enjoyed the ribbon.
Lilah checking out the lights.
Lilah at Christmas dinner.

Daddy and Lilah.
Love.
Don't let Alice try and convince you otherwise, the food was delicious. ;)